Today, I finally watched the move Beautiful Boy. For months I've been putting it off because a story about a boy battling addiction was a bit to close to home. But I was drawn to it like a moth to a flame, wanting insight and information that would help me help other families. Who am I kidding, help me help myself. I knew I needed to see it, I just didn't know why. Until now.
The movie was done incredibly well. It showed the roller-coaster of emotions we feel when torn between longing [...]
Maybe you feel like your parents just don't get it. Perhaps you wish they would stop treating you like a child or quit judging every little thing you do. Or maybe you just want them to listen. Lots of people just like you wish they knew what to do to make talking with their parents just a little easier. Whether it's the big stuff or the day-to-day grind here are some simple things to consider:
Keep your parents in the loop about the little things; it [...]
As a mother of someone in recovery my heart broke today. Not for my son, not for my family, not even for myself but for every other son and mother out there who continue to fight the beast of addiction. My son was (is – if I’m willing to accept that) addicted to prescription meds and alcohol. Even after 5 years of recovery under his belt, I still have a hard time using addict or alcoholic to describe him.
My baby is so much more than an addict, in fact if you met him (even at his [...]
One of the most challenging parts of having a mental illness is that even with treatment, some days are harder than others. This is exactly why healthy coping strategies make all the difference. When a difficult day rears it's head, co-founder Geoffrey Davis takes to writing to relieve the stress and unrest. Today he shares a glimpse behind the mask of depression in his latest poem.
Behind The Mask by Geoffrey Davis
Depressed, stuck in a place of unrest,
things happening around me and I[...]
When we think of addiction our minds naturally think of drugs and alcohol, but addiction comes in many forms. To be addicted simply means that you are physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance or action, and unable to stop without incurring adverse effects.
Eating disorders fall under the addiction umbrella. If you think or know that someone is suffering here are some tips from charity Beat (originally posted here).
Tips to addressing someone with an eating disorder:[...]
Once you get into the habit of having a drink or two to unwind after work, it’s difficult to imagine doing anything else. After a long day, how else are you going to escape your worries? Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to unwind after work without alcohol. If you give them a chance, you may find a newer, healthier “addiction.” Here are 8 ways to relax that do not involve alcohol:
1. Create a ritual around drinking tea — Alcohol addiction is complicated and has many [...]
I saw them, the cuts on my daughter’s arms. When I asked her about them she told me a story – a story I believed. Was it a believable story? Not really. But I didn’t want to see the truth.
Time goes by and a year later I see more, more cuts on my daughter’s arms. This time I ask more questions and believe less lies. I poke and prod and eventually she admits she intentionally cut herself. When we talk about why she tells me another story. And I believe it, again. It seems like it was [...]
Who would have thought I would be able to be perfectly happy sitting at the same coffee shop every day after work, just doing a little bit of writing and hanging out with a group of people who I now consider to be family even though I’ve only known them for about two months. I sure as hell wouldn’t have thought it possible when just a little over three years ago I would have looked at a guy like myself like he was a fucking idiot, and thought he was wasting his life. But that’s [...]
For many people the answer isn’t a simple yes or no. It’s almost as though the answer lies in limbo; they are “almost” happy while at the same time they also feel “almost” depressed. Nothing definitive just the notion that things shouldn’t be so difficult . So how do you know if you are in fact depressed?
This was a question I toyed with for months when my son teetered on that line. There were days when I worried and days when his behavior had me pushing the worry aside. [...]
This piece is a raw and passionate account with harsh language but for those who need this article I don’t think that is a concern. You matter to more people than you realize! If you’re one of my friends you matter to me! Please read this great piece by Britta Reque-Dragicevic founder of LifeAfterWar.Org
You’re thinking about it. Ending your life. Stopping the pain. Doing it because you think it’s best for those around you. You’re tired of your shit being the cause of other [...]
Over the last year, between a friend’s son passing and a wake-up call family event, I found myself having a hard time reading this message. It felt too raw, to real and too painful. But the reality is that it is RAW, it is REAL and things like Depression, PTSD and Anxiety are PAINFUL No amount of wishing them away works and, for those of us affected by loved ones dealing with these things, we are left with feelings ranging from helplessness to hope.
And while it’s [...]
Last week was a highlight for me. It marked the end of a journey that I hadn’t asked to be on, in fact it was a nightmare that I’m happy to wake up from. I’ve written about my son’s suicide attempts, addiction to prescription meds and alcohol and his struggles with PTSD, Depression and Anxiety. But until last week I hadn’t seen the reason behind our family's experience. I couldn’t get past asking why.
Why did we have to almost lose our son to understand that life had [...]
When my life gets busy it’s hard to keep up with our daily home life. When we were a family in crisis it was nearly impossible. All I wanted was to find balance and create a happier home, and I had no idea how to do it.
I was so caught up in putting out fires and worrying about my family that joy and happiness seemed impossible. But slowly one strategy at a time we were able to bring back the laughter.
Here are 7 Tips For a Happier Home:
1. Treat the people you live with like [...]
Parenting your teenager. Looking back there are so many things I wish I had done differently as a parent. Don’t get me wrong, I am a great mom, but there are times when I wish I had known better.
From the moment we hold them in our arms we are responsible for our child’s physical and emotional well-being. I worried and wondered and, as they grew, I was torn between my desire for them to stay young and my wish that they would grow up already. After years of teaching, nurturing and [...]